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Fear of Feeling?

Have you ever consumed yourself with a work project when you felt sad? Or turned to something sweet or…

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More than that…

A college friend would say that I was my worst me while watching Packer football. Living in Minnesota,…

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The Unplanned Walk

Last week, my brother and I enjoyed our traditional bike trip to Tip Top Dairy in Osakis, Minnesota. As the sun rays increased the thermometer to 93,…

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Staying in Your Lane?

Are you living a life you think you should, or a life you love? What does living your dream life…

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Are You Seeing the Full Person?

If you enjoy the gift of sight, do you notice skin color? What does it mean to notice…

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Facing the Pain

Are you comfortable talking about pain? Why is that? Is it helplessness, insensitivity, or something else? Humans tend to completely avoid…

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What Influences Your Beliefs?

Ever consider who or what shapes your beliefs? Curious about anyone else’s? People hold strong opinions on a wide…

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Time to Update the Communication Toolkit?

What kinds of tools do you have to make life easier? Do you have a good set of…

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Generosity of Gratitude

Ever receive a call or text from someone you have just been thinking about? Or enjoy a smile…

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Making the Molehill a Mountain

Do have ever experience a moment, and give it a whole lot more meaning than it calls for?…

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Hiding the Hurt?

As a little girl, I liked to run with the boys, namely my three older brothers. I liked…

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Curiosity Changes Conflict

Have you ever thought, “she does not know what she is talking about” or “he could not be…

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How Long Will You Carry That?

I once attended a funeral where the priest read an obituary that did not acknowledge two of the…

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Avoiding or Allowing?

Who likes to feel happy? Me! Anyone like to feel sad? What fun is that? Avoiding sadness seems…

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Does Time Matter?

Know anyone who tends to be late? Do you start thinking, “how rude and disrespectful,” wonder “what’s going…

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Gratitude, Grief, and Letting Go

Where are you in this experience? While I have not been to my office for eleven days, I…

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Time For…

Growing up in rural Wisconsin, I knew and trusted that neighbors looked out for each other. We considered…

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“Should” I?

As we face an unprecedented situation with coronavirus (COVID-19), I hear “should” frequently. I have never really be…

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Solution or Resolution?

Whether it is children quarreling about who gets to play with a toy, or adults arguing over who…

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Beneath the Frustration

With fifty-five parts scattered about, a screwdriver in hand, and a set of directions, I recently sought to…

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Meaning in the Workplace

Has anyone ever misunderstood something you said? Have you ever mistaken someone else’s intentions? Why or how does…

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Curious as a…?

My ideal approach to mediation combines curiosity and compassion by understanding a person’s thoughts about the situation, where…

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I Don’t Have to Take That…

You don’t have to take that, or anything from anybody. But what does “not taking that” look like?…

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What is Your Truth?

When framing a question to a colleague recently, I characterized something as a “story.” He responded that it…

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Speaking of Connection

Whether a marriage, friendship, or working relationship, I hear time and again from people who stop feeling connected…

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The Meaning of Stuff

A young woman’s husband promised to buy her a brand new bedroom suite. To her, the furniture symbolized…

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The Fine Lie

How often do you respond with “I’m fine” or “good” while your mind and body says otherwise? Even…

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More Than Two Options

How do you respond when someone calls to do a survey? Often times, I tell the caller it…

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Restoring Grace Mr. Roger’s Way

Have you seen, “A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood?” The consummate gentle grace-filled man, Mr. Rogers (Tom Hanks),…

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Thank You, Trusted Truth Tellers

Do you have a person who speaks truth to you? Is that person also someone you trust? Does…

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Right Person, Wrong Seat

Have you ever encountered someone who just did not seem to be the right fit for the job?…

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Confronting Conflict with Curiosity

How do you approach or confront conflict? Humans sometimes avoid acknowledging that any disagreement or dispute exists out…

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Getting Comfortable with Conflict

Do you ever see something differently than someone else? Are you in a situation where you disagree with…

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Behind “Unreasonable” Behavior

Have you ever wondered how someone could behave so unreasonably? What is the person really seeking? If you…

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May We Reduce Domestic Violence by Learning Conflict Skills?

During domestic violence awareness month, it is common to talk about the myriad of reasons victims stay in…

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Does Your Organization Have a Plan?

If your business or organization suddenly finds itself without a key team member, who will take responsibility? Many…

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Airing Grievance Privately in Mediation

Have you ever complained about a person, group, or business? Or heard through the grapevine that another spoke…

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Conflict Coaching Helps Make the Ask

What stops us from asking for help?  For me, it may be a combination of pride, stubbornness, and…

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Keep Words Soft and Sweet

In my grandma’s kitchen hung a picture of a grazing cow with the words:                Be Careful Of The…

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Peace Begins with You

Have you ever said “yes” to something and regretted it five minutes, five days, or even five years…

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The Family Farm and Conflict Resolution

Working the same land as your grandparents and great-grandparents brings both a tremendous sense of pride and responsibility….

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Working it Out

Have you ever felt frustrated when talking with a co-worker or supervisor?  You are definitely not alone. You…

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In the Neighborhood

Years ago, a roommate and I returned to our apartment to find our upstairs neighbor (who we had…

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Planning for Peace

What do you do when a loved one shows signs of being unable to safely drive? Or adequately…

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Knowing Your Needs

What do you need? When most people state their needs, they really list strategies for meeting them. Whether…

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Church and Change

The existence of religious institutions may bring peace, grace and healing to many. Since human beings lead, work,…

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School Talk in Session

Whether a student, teacher, parent, faculty or staff member, administrator, school board member, volunteer, or taxpayer, schools impact…

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More than Business Partners

As so often happens, a couple of friends or family members share some common interest or idea and…

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Self Determination in Senior Living

Deciding where an aging adult will live out their final years, months, or days can feel overwhelming. Too…

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Changing the relationship

Does ending a marriage really end a relationship? Or does it change the nature of the relationship? Instead…

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How do you experience conflict?

Part of being human means experiencing conflict. It generally does not feel good, which leads to a variety…

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