Getting Comfortable with Uncomfortable Conversations

Ever feel someone simply does not care or value your relationship? What do you say? 

People call me who feel frustrated, hurt, and disappointed with friends, family members, or a working relationship. When I ask what they have shared with the other person so far, the response is often, “nothing.”  

I get that sometimes it seems easier to not deal with a situation.  Keeping silent keeps people feeling safe. Yet, saying nothing may also be communicating the same message of, “I do not care about you either,” or “I do not value this relationship.”   It creates further disconnection. Unwillingness to feel uncomfortable in the short-term creates further discomfort. 

Usually when someone treats you with disrespect or inconsideration, it comes from a place of pain. While you may not be in a place to offer compassion or empathy, you may express your hurt, frustration, or disappointment to let the person know how their words and actions impact you.   

How you share makes all the difference. Being clear about thoughts, feelings, and needs helps focus the conversation. Are you sharing from a place of care? Or a place of anger? 

Why does this person’s words impact you? It may signify that you care and value the relationship. Leaning into discomfort and honestly sharing your experience allows you to let go. After speaking your truth, you do not have to carry around the angst and fear of the unknown. 

Are you willing to feel a little uncomfortable for the sake of long-term comfort? If you need help approaching a delicate conversation or sharing your truth at home, work, or in the community, schedule a class, coaching, or mediation.  

Tired of being consumed with angst over a relationship? Giving yourself the support now to address disagreements or misunderstandings allows you to spend your time and energy on what you love.  

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Most widely known as Lonzo's human, mediator, speaker, and author Sherry Ann Bruckner works with leaders and organizations to create peace, resolve conflict, and transform visions into results.

From her twenty-plus years' experience practicing civil and family law, and her own personal experiences with silence and violence, Sherry Ann understands how much inner peace impacts outer peace. A graduate of Hamline University's College of Liberal Arts and William Mitchell College of Law, she also studied conflict resolution at Rothberg International School in Jerusalem. Sherry serves as a neutral on matters ranging from bias and employment discrimination to marriage dissolution and caring for aging parents. A speaker and trainer on the global stage, Sherry gives you and your audience practical skills and the confidence to use embrace your personal power to create peace. Through helping thousands of people navigate their way through conflict, and finding her own way to inner peace, she shares the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

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Sherry Ann Bruckner

Be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.