Getting Comfortable with Conflict

Do you ever see something differently than someone else? Are you in a situation where you disagree with what is happening? If so, you may be experiencing conflict. From time to time people tell me that they do not have any conflict, and then proceed to tell me about a dispute with a family member, colleague, friend, or someone else. People feel pretty strongly about what conflict means, and often associate it with negativity. Is conflict really negative?

When you go swimming, the water may resist you from moving forward, but you push or pull the water to keep moving forward. The water’s resistance is neither positive nor negative. Likewise, conflict itself is neither positive or negative. We give conflict whatever meaning we choose. If you are involved in a conflict, does that make you a bad person? No, it means you are human. What if naming a conflict actually releases the power it currently has over you? 

If you deny the existence of conflict, it may keep you perpetually stuck in the same situation, or treading water in the same place indefinitely. Acknowledging conflict leads you to clarify your own needs. You will only figure out strategies for conflict resolution, when you name it. Otherwise, you may find yourself exhausted.

Admitting you have conflict in your life does not make you more or less nice. It may, however, provide a sense of freedom. What conflict means and how it impacts your life is up to you. Conflict coaching empowers individuals to gain clarity and engage confidently and compassionately. Allowing space for people to clarify needs and consider options may create more lasting solutions.

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner, JD, enjoys helping you bridge the gap from where you are to where you wish to be. An attorney, mediator, coach, speaker, and trainer, she strongly believes in the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

Sherry Ann invites and encourages you to consider your own level of peace. Inner peace creates outer peace and personal peace leads to world peace. You may find her enjoying a game or hiking a state park. Sherry Ann lives near Alexandria, Minnesota. Visit to learn more or give her a call at (320) 808-3212.
Sherry Ann Bruckner

Be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.