Act from Love

What do you do when you just do not feel love for someone close to you? We all have those days where the loving feeling seems to disappear. Whether or not the feeling exists, choosing to act from love always remains an option. After all, love is verb.

Here are three ways to act from love, whether or not you “feel” it: 

1) Listen through the ears of love. 

2) See through eyes of love.  

3) Speak through the voice of love.  

What are you hearing? While a person may be trying to connect, the words, tone of voice, and volume of speaking may seem to do just the opposite. It may be the best way the person knows how to express themselves.  People either say their needs are met or not met and usually without ever saying the word need or the need. Listening with ears of love, one begins imagine how the person might be feeling and get curious about the need. 

What are you seeing? A person’s body posture, hand gestures, and other actions also tells something. These may show content and happiness or sadness and frustration. Both again tell whether the person feels their needs are being met. Seeing through the eyes of love helps recognize that the person, regardless of their actions, has basic human needs. 

What are you saying? There may be an inclination to offer advice (my personal go to up until now), consolation, or otherwise fill in the space with words. Speaking with the voice of love may first involve reflecting back what was heard to show empathy. Words, tone, and volume may show an understanding of the feelings and needs.  

Listening, seeing, and speaking from love applies to how you interact with yourself as well as others. Are you hearing yourself through ears of love? Are you seeing yourself through eyes of love? Are you speaking to yourself with a voice of love?

While it may seem easier to act with love when feeling the love, seeing, hearing, and speaking from a place of love prove enormously transformational.  

What if you act from love with yourself and the people around you? What difference will that make? There is only one way to know…act from love.

A civil and family mediator, coach, speaker, and trainer, Sherry Ann Bruckner lives in Alexandria, Minnesota. Visit brucknermediation.com/services to learn more or call Sherry at (320) 808-3212 for help transforming conflict and creating peace in your home, organization, or community.

As always, be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.