What are you Focused on Growing?

What do you think about most? Where do you place your attention? 

In both mediation and coaching sessions, my clients often want to talk about what they do not want. Who wants a colleague brushing them off? A partner not giving attention? Or a team full of “I’s?” 

Certainly, it helps to acknowledge what might not be working in life. Being aware of what we do not want helps us clarify what we do wish to create.

Yet, sometimes people get stuck in thinking about what they do not want. When that happens, people tend to act in a way that creates more of the same.  

The colleague who feels brushed off stops talking and the two grow even more distant. The partner who does not receive the desired attention stops giving attention leading to greater disconnection. The team member who sees the team losing its cohesiveness starts behaving independently as well, creating one more “I.” 

What about you? How often do you let someone else’s behavior determine how you show up?  

So often people say they just want to create a boundary, which to them means showing up harshly and aggressively, or shutting down and withdrawing.  

What if you can set clear parameters and still show up with respect and consideration?  

What if you can walk away from the interaction knowing you showed up as the best version of you?  

I do not know who said the following wise words:

“What we resist persists.”

“What we focus on grows.”

What are you growing with your focus?

To learn more about approaching challenging conversations, check out Bruckner Mediation’s training options.  

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Most widely known as Lonzo's human, mediator, speaker, and author Sherry Ann Bruckner works with leaders and organizations to create peace, resolve conflict, and transform visions into results.

From her twenty-plus years' experience practicing civil and family law, and her own personal experiences with silence and violence, Sherry Ann understands how much inner peace impacts outer peace. A graduate of Hamline University's College of Liberal Arts and William Mitchell College of Law, she also studied conflict resolution at Rothberg International School in Jerusalem. Sherry serves as a neutral on matters ranging from bias and employment discrimination to marriage dissolution and caring for aging parents. A speaker and trainer on the global stage, Sherry gives you and your audience practical skills and the confidence to use embrace your personal power to create peace. Through helping thousands of people navigate their way through conflict, and finding her own way to inner peace, she shares the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

Visit brucknermediation.com/services to learn more or give her a call at (320) 808-3212.
Sherry Ann Bruckner

Be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.