Speaking Your Truth

Are you comfortable speaking your truth? Under what circumstances and with whom? 

It sometimes feels uncomfortable to share our truth, particularly when the listener may not agree or may react with hurt or anger.  

Worry about how someone might respond may be a sign of compassion, and sometimes it signals fear. Knowing your personal reason for sharing your thoughts and ideas helps. While it is certainly important to consider another person’s feelings, it may not be helpful to do so at great personal expense. 

As a mediator and conflict coach, I work with many people who refrain from sharing their truth to avoid conflict only to find themselves even more frustrated later when the situation absolutely must be addressed.  

Pausing, being mindful of the desired result, and speaking with clarity, compassion, and curiosity allow you to speak your truth in the moment. You may be surprised to learn that the other person involved really cares about the relationship more than being “right.” 

Addressing issues honestly benefits you and the people in your home, workplace, and community by opening space for resolution. If you never discuss what is bothering you, you will not and cannot fix anything. 

Mostly people desire to be in right relationship with each other. Discussing feelings and needs through non-violent communication allows a more authentic dialogue and helps people get to the heart of the matter. Doing so leads typically generates creative ideas for resolution.  

Are your ready to speak your truth?  

A civil and family mediator, peace builder, and educator, Sherry Ann Bruckner lives in Alexandria, Minnesota. Visit brucknermediation.com/services to learn more or call Sherry at (320) 808-3212 for help to transform conflict and create peace.

As always, be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.