Peace Begins with You

Do you ever say “yes” to something and regret it five minutes, five days, or even five years later? Perhaps, you witness a family member or friend attend an event or volunteer for an activity. You feel the uncomfortableness because everyone knows the person really does not want to participate.

The desire to please sometimes leads to both inner and outer conflict. An effort to “keep the peace” actually disrupts the peace when feelings and needs remain unspoken. 

To meet your own needs, it is important to take the time to identify them. Do you need self-care, appreciation, understanding, clarity, order, rest, or fun? If these needs stay met, you may feel calm, content, motivated, openhearted, or invigorated. When the needs linger unmet, it may lead to feelings of burnout, detachment, insecurity, frustration, or resentment. 

What does meeting needs look like for you? The ways we choose to meet specific needs may change from time to time. While one day you may find fun in hiking or biking, another day you may feel more joy in watching the birds or playing a game. Self-care may be a nap, pedicure, meditation, reading, painting, or something entirely unique to you depending on the day.

What does a sense of order look like to you? Is it a sparkling kitchen counter or all bills paid, both, or something else? 

At the root of conflict lies a feeling of unmet needs. Being clear about your needs and the way you wish to meet them increases your inner sense of peace.

When you have an inner sense of peace, you will often exude a greater sense of outer peace. 

How comfortable are you speaking your truth?

Conflict coaching or peace coaching helps you clarify your needs and create healthy boundaries.

What steps will you take to ensure your own inner peace?

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Most widely known as Lonzo's human, mediator, speaker, and author Sherry Ann Bruckner works with leaders and organizations to create peace, resolve conflict, and transform visions into results.

From her twenty-plus years' experience practicing civil and family law, and her own personal experiences with silence and violence, Sherry Ann understands how much inner peace impacts outer peace. A graduate of Hamline University's College of Liberal Arts and William Mitchell College of Law, she also studied conflict resolution at Rothberg International School in Jerusalem. Sherry serves as a neutral on matters ranging from bias and employment discrimination to marriage dissolution and caring for aging parents. A speaker and trainer on the global stage, Sherry gives you and your audience practical skills and the confidence to use embrace your personal power to create peace. Through helping thousands of people navigate their way through conflict, and finding her own way to inner peace, she shares the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

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Sherry Ann Bruckner

Be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.