Making the Molehill a Mountain

Do have ever experience a moment, and give it a whole lot more meaning than it calls for? For me, the phrase “making mountains out of molehills” comes to mind. When someone says or does something, or does not say or do something, I may experience the moment as just a simple little molehill. Another time, my brain’s thinking makes that molehill moment into a big ‘ol mountain.   

Weeks ago, I started to tell my Mom about a project that excited me. She interrupted to ask if I had gotten her mail, and then we did not return to my story. I felt frustrated. Why did I feel frustrated? I thought she should not have interrupted me or could have at least asked me to finish my story, and since that did not happen, I started thinking she did not value me. Did you catch all the “should” and “could”ing in my thoughts? In the next breath, I started telling myself I “should not” think and feel that way. I also chose not to finish telling my story. Yes, my thinking made that moment mean that my mother did not care. Thinking she did not care, I chose not to share, which could only lead to further disconnection. I really wanted support in that moment. Because I did not receive support in the way I wished, did it really mean Mom does not care? No. The interruption equaled a molehilll. I made that mountain in my mind with my own thoughts.  

Do you ever notice your own thoughts? It helps to pause, breathe, consider your needs, and ask a few questions: How could I be clearer with myself and the other person? Could more compassion for myself or someone else change the situation? What if I showed more curiosity? 

Are you building any mountains where a molehill belongs? What meaning do your thoughts create? How does that meaning impact your relationships? 

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Most widely known as Lonzo's human, mediator, speaker, and author Sherry Ann Bruckner works with leaders and organizations to create peace, resolve conflict, and transform visions into results.

From her twenty-plus years' experience practicing civil and family law, and her own personal experiences with silence and violence, Sherry Ann understands how much inner peace impacts outer peace. A graduate of Hamline University's College of Liberal Arts and William Mitchell College of Law, she also studied conflict resolution at Rothberg International School in Jerusalem. Sherry serves as a neutral on matters ranging from bias and employment discrimination to marriage dissolution and caring for aging parents. A speaker and trainer on the global stage, Sherry gives you and your audience practical skills and the confidence to use embrace your personal power to create peace. Through helping thousands of people navigate their way through conflict, and finding her own way to inner peace, she shares the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

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Sherry Ann Bruckner

Be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.