Avoiding or Allowing?

Who likes to feel happy? Me! Anyone like to feel sad? What fun is that? Avoiding sadness seems fairly common. I sometimes do not even recognize that I am avoiding.  

As I walked to my pantry for the umpteenth time yesterday, I paused and finally questioned what I was doing. I knew I was not hungry and must be avoiding something. My routine seems to be thrown out the window and perhaps I was just avoiding some work. While sitting on the couch, the realization swept over me that I was avoiding feeling sad. I am grateful for my life and all the goodness in it. Yet, I felt sad and then felt guilty for feeling sad. Like being with a good friend, I acknowledged that it is pretty natural to feel a little sad right now. Acknowledging and understanding lightened the heaviness. Then, I shed a few tears. Allowing myself to experience the sadness, rather than stuff it down, released it. Being truthful with ourselves  about feelings and needs, and allowing ourselves to express that truth in a healthy way, brings healing. 

When I handle divorce mediations, people sometimes bring up past hurts. Taking a moment to acknowledge that hurt makes a huge difference in helping folks move forward. Issues not addressed in the present moment often lead to bigger issues in the future. It may feel a little uncomfortable to talk about certain things, yet avoiding conversations tends to damage relationships in the long-term.  

Be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace, friends.  

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

From her twenty-plus years' experience practicing civil and family law, and her own personal experiences with silence and violence, Sherry Ann Bruckner understands how much inner peace impacts outer peace. A graduate of Hamline University's College of Liberal Arts and William Mitchell College of Law, she also studied conflict resolution at Rothberg International School in Jerusalem. Sherry serves as a neutral on matters ranging from bias and employment discrimination to marriage dissolution and caring for aging parents. A speaker and trainer on the global stage, Sherry gives you and your audience practical skills and the confidence to use them. An engaging and authentic speaker, she believes you hold the personal power to create peace. Through helping thousands of people navigate their way through conflict, and finding her own way to inner peace, she shares the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

A small-town mediator with a big heart and global mission, Sherry works with leaders and organizations to create peace, resolve conflict, and transform visions into results.

Visit brucknermediation.com/services to learn more or give her a call at (320) 808-3212.
Sherry Ann Bruckner

Be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.