Meaning in the Workplace

Has anyone ever misunderstood something you said? Have you ever mistaken someone else’s intentions? Why or how does this happen? Is it because you and I choose the meaning? We do. People choose the meaning of words usually based upon past experiences. It often has little or nothing to do with the present moment.

Let’s say a boss says a report needs to be rewritten. Before finishing the statement, an employee may start thinking:

“I can’t believe this. I put three full days into this already.”

“The boss always finds something wrong.”

“I’m sick of this. Maybe I should just quit.”

“I cannot afford to lose this job.”

Does the boss’ statement really mean any of those things? The truth may be that the investors now seek different information, or other reasons exist that have nothing to do with the employee or the employee’s performance. Even if it is about performance, this conversation is really about the performance on this one report in this instance unless folks make it mean something else.

Slow down. Take a breath. Tell you mind “stop.” Seek more information to understand. Act from a place of curiosity and ask the boss to explain further, find out what information needs to be included or removed, or clarify the goal. Make sure that the meaning you give the statement is really the meaning intended. You may be pleasantly surprised.

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Most widely known as Lonzo's human, mediator, speaker, and author Sherry Ann Bruckner works with leaders and organizations to create peace, resolve conflict, and transform visions into results.

From her twenty-plus years' experience practicing civil and family law, and her own personal experiences with silence and violence, Sherry Ann understands how much inner peace impacts outer peace. A graduate of Hamline University's College of Liberal Arts and William Mitchell College of Law, she also studied conflict resolution at Rothberg International School in Jerusalem. Sherry serves as a neutral on matters ranging from bias and employment discrimination to marriage dissolution and caring for aging parents. A speaker and trainer on the global stage, Sherry gives you and your audience practical skills and the confidence to use embrace your personal power to create peace. Through helping thousands of people navigate their way through conflict, and finding her own way to inner peace, she shares the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

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Sherry Ann Bruckner

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