Disappointing Decisions

What do you do when you know a decision will disappoint someone?

My friend, Joe, went to the same barber for 15 plus years. He and the barber became buddies and would meet with a group of guys for coffee every week. 

On one occasion the barber and his neighbor, who happened to be Joe’s friend, got into a rather heated dispute about the location of a shed and joint property lines. Joe and his friend really thought the barber conducted himself poorly in the dispute. 

The next week at coffee, the barber mentioned the shed incident, and Joe told the barber he was very disappointed in how the barber handled the situation. Joe’s friend later said “Joe, I hope this means you will not go to that barber again.” 

Yet, Joe continued to go to the barber. While Joe felt disappointment in the barber’s behavior in that one incident, he also still really liked his barber. Joe would have been more disappointed to stop going to that barber. 

Joe understood his friend’s right to be disappointed in his choice to continue going to the same barber. Yet, Joe recognized that both people were much more than the shed incident. He saw beyond the disappointing behavior in that incident. Plus, he was fully aware that he too had let down people in his life.

Each day people make decisions that may or may not impact other people. People get to not like those decisions. Knowing someone might be disappointed in a decision does not necessarily require changing the decision.

What do you do when you think someone will be disappointed with whatever decision you make? Will you sacrifice your own needs not to disappoint someone else? Or will you act in ways to not disappoint yourself?

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Most widely known as Lonzo's human, mediator, speaker, and author Sherry Ann Bruckner works with leaders and organizations to create peace, resolve conflict, and transform visions into results.

From her twenty-plus years' experience practicing civil and family law, and her own personal experiences with silence and violence, Sherry Ann understands how much inner peace impacts outer peace. A graduate of Hamline University's College of Liberal Arts and William Mitchell College of Law, she also studied conflict resolution at Rothberg International School in Jerusalem. Sherry serves as a neutral on matters ranging from bias and employment discrimination to marriage dissolution and caring for aging parents. A speaker and trainer on the global stage, Sherry gives you and your audience practical skills and the confidence to use embrace your personal power to create peace. Through helping thousands of people navigate their way through conflict, and finding her own way to inner peace, she shares the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

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Sherry Ann Bruckner

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