Sometimes when we disagree with someone or need to confront a difficult conversation, we either shut down or speak aggressively. A coach helps you clarify and fully consider the situation so that you may approach it confidently with clarity, compassion, and curiosity. Coaching helps you focus on your future result and create a plan to show up as your best self in those challenging moments. Whether you call it conflict coaching or peace coaching, coaching helps you move from a place of conflict to peace.
Examples of Coaching Situations
Family gatherings weigh on you, whether you dread a political or religious discussion, or the same past conversation. Who can you be in those moments while clearly speaking your truth and showing compassion?
Someone offers to help with organizational project, although history suggests the person may not follow through. What can you say and do to clarify expectations, while showing gratitude and compassion for the offer?
Who Does Coaching Help?
Spouses/Partners, children, In-laws, siblings, parents, or grandparents
Business owners, human resource professionals, or employees.
Members and leaders of charitable, philanthropic, or religious organizations
And anyone else involved in a dispute.
What Happens In Coaching?
Most conflict starts in a moment in which someone says or does something or does not do or say anything. People often label the moment as good or bad or right or wrong, rather being clear about what one observes.
A conflict coach helps clarify the facts and thoughts to bring clarity the moment.
In every moment, someone demonstrates whether their needs are being met or unmet. If someone shows up with anger, frustration, or disappointment, it signifies an unmet need. A conflict coach helps you identify and consider the underlying need so you can get to the crux of the situation.
Once the underlying need has been identified, it is time to create ideas for resolution.
A conflict coach will teach you clear, compassionate communication tools so that you show up with clarity, compassion, and curiosity when addressing this situation and other challenging conversations.
"I work with a coach, who teaches me tools to increase my physical strength. This coaching helps me show up as a better version of myself. As a coach, I people the tools and confidence to approach challenging conversations with clarity, compassion, and curiosity. I love hearing from clients about the positive difference coaching makes in their personal and professional lives."
-Sherry Bruckner, Coach, Mediator, Peace Builder