Curiosity Changes Conflict

Have you ever thought, “she does not know what she is talking about” or “he could not be more irrational?”  

When the focus goes to who is right and who is wrong, real needs tend to be overlooked. What if two people need the same thing? The very basic need may be safety, security, stability, or something else. What if folks disagree about how to meet the need? What gives me a sense of security may be very different than what gives you a sense of security. Does that make one of us right and one of us wrong? What if a resolution exists that allows us to both meet our basic needs?  

In any moment, folks may choose to argue about rightness and wrongness, or choose curiosity. Curiosity asks a question with the intent to learn. Simply start with “I wonder…”  I wonder what I really need. I wonder what this other person needs. How could we meet both needs?  

Staying in rightness and wrongness rarely feels good, typically separates people, and often exacerbates the conflict. Consider showing up with curiosity. Curiosity may lead to conflict resolution.  

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Most widely known as Lonzo's human, mediator, speaker, and author Sherry Ann Bruckner works with leaders and organizations to create peace, resolve conflict, and transform visions into results.

From her twenty-plus years' experience practicing civil and family law, and her own personal experiences with silence and violence, Sherry Ann understands how much inner peace impacts outer peace. A graduate of Hamline University's College of Liberal Arts and William Mitchell College of Law, she also studied conflict resolution at Rothberg International School in Jerusalem. Sherry serves as a neutral on matters ranging from bias and employment discrimination to marriage dissolution and caring for aging parents. A speaker and trainer on the global stage, Sherry gives you and your audience practical skills and the confidence to use embrace your personal power to create peace. Through helping thousands of people navigate their way through conflict, and finding her own way to inner peace, she shares the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

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Sherry Ann Bruckner

Be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.