Church and Change

The existence of religious institutions may bring peace, grace and healing to many. Since human beings lead, work, volunteer, meet, plan, and fill those institutions, less desirable feelings may develop as well. 

In many places, changes in leadership from staff to committee chairs to volunteers occur on a fairly regular basis. Even when no change occurs, it may allow a whole separate place for conflict to flourish. 

Whether it is a budget shortfall, remodeling or expansion, committee restructuring, or staffing, the fear of impending change may provoke a series of conversations between and amongst members and staff that spiral out of control. While each person may believe his or her thoughts truly represent the best interests of the group, it is easy to forget that each person may have different needs and may choose to belong for different reasons. Perhaps one person loves music and another resonates with the sermon and for a third it fills their sense of connection.  

Allowing people their own reasons for belonging, and respecting their right to feel however they feel about change, goes a long way in strengthening the community. We all process thoughts differently and need the space to do so. 

Mediation supports these important conversations by providing a safe space where you may speak your truth, be heard, and create ideas for resolution. 

A civil and family mediator, peace builder, and educator, Sherry Ann Bruckner lives in Alexandria, Minnesota. Visit brucknermediation.com/services to learn more or call Sherry at (320) 808-3212 for help to transform conflict and create peace.

As always, be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.