Deck the …

What’s your go to when you feel angry or frustrated? Do you shut down and avoid the conversation? Or do you want to deck someone or something? 

During transformational coaching, I am not always fully sure what topics a client will want to discuss. It varies from transforming their life to addressing communication and conflict at home, work, or somewhere else.    

Recently, a business owner brought up an issue in their personal life. The person told me they would “deck the guy” if he behaved a certain way. While I encourage people to explore all communication options, I also invite consideration of the consequences of those choices.  

This person believed it important to make a clear statement on the subject. So often I hear people say you can either be clear or compassionate. You can have both at the same time. It takes commitment and practice.  

Clarity does not have to lack compassion. In fact, information is usually better received when accompanied with a bit of curiosity and understanding. (I know many teachers who have mastered this skill.) 

You can send a clear message, hold someone accountable and maintain self-control and self-respect. It takes personal strength to keep your anger in check and approach situations with clarity, compassion, and curiosity.  

If you need help approaching those challenging conversations, consider coaching or training.  

Remember, clarity and compassion may co-exist. Leave the decking to the halls this holiday season. 

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Most widely known as Lonzo's human, mediator, speaker, and author Sherry Ann Bruckner works with leaders and organizations to create peace, resolve conflict, and transform visions into results.

From her twenty-plus years' experience practicing civil and family law, and her own personal experiences with silence and violence, Sherry Ann understands how much inner peace impacts outer peace. A graduate of Hamline University's College of Liberal Arts and William Mitchell College of Law, she also studied conflict resolution at Rothberg International School in Jerusalem. Sherry serves as a neutral on matters ranging from bias and employment discrimination to marriage dissolution and caring for aging parents. A speaker and trainer on the global stage, Sherry gives you and your audience practical skills and the confidence to use embrace your personal power to create peace. Through helping thousands of people navigate their way through conflict, and finding her own way to inner peace, she shares the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

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Sherry Ann Bruckner

Be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.