Control your Calendar

What does a “normal” schedule mean to you? What control do you take over your calendar?  

As more places and spaces begin to open, excitement fills the air about reconnecting with family and friends and returning to “normal.” Likewise, a bit of hesitation, trepidation, and anxiety arise as people discover not all aspects of being shut down were so bad, and they do not want a “normal” that includes full calendars. 

My first awakening to controlling my calendar occurred when my dad was dying of cancer. All the work, volunteer and social obligations that seemed so crucial simply were not. Thankfully, I had tremendous support from colleagues to hand off obligations on a moment’s notice.  

While the constant changing of plans may not be the ideal way to live, it taught me a valuable lesson that every schedule can change. Certainly, consequences exist for how I choose to calendar and spend my time. However, the choice remains mine.  

It does not take long for a calendar to fill up with “to-do’s” and activities. Which of your former “must-do’s” have proven themselves to be options? Can you live without doing that thing? What other way might you spend that time? 

Realistically, what you put on your calendar is always an option. Sometimes my calendar changes by default, and other times by design. I get to design my schedule.

You control your calendar. What will you put on yours? Does it light you up? Is it what really matters? 


Sherry Bruckner

Sherry Bruckner

A civil and family mediator, transformational coach, speaker, and trainer, Sherry Ann Bruckner lives in Alexandria, Minnesota. Visit to learn more or call Sherry at (320) 808-3212 for help transforming conflict and creating peace in your home, organization, or community.
Sherry Ann Bruckner

As always, be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.