How Long Will You Carry That?

I once attended a funeral where the priest read an obituary that did not acknowledge two of the deceased mother’s children. The young lawyer in me wanted to  “object” while he spoke. I said nothing. I could not fully understand the dynamics of the situation. 

I wonder from time to time about the unspoken words between the mother and her children. I wonder when they stopped acknowledging each other. Was it in an instant moment or a slow distancing? They surely shared significant moments, presumably the children’s firsts of many things, and celebrations of birthdays and holidays. Were joyful times erased by hurtful words or unspoken cares, or would each say no joy existed? Perhaps, each carried hurts and blamed the other for those.  

Humans sometimes choose to carry stuff with them for many years. Carrying negative thoughts and feelings around tends to disconnect us from each other and ourselves. As we observe our own actions, we begin to see our role in situations. Although we cannot change circumstances, we start to recognize our ability to act and speak with both compassion and confidence and show up as a better version of ourselves next time.  

Is there an unspoken conversation on your mind? How long do you plan to carry it? Could you benefit from conflict resolution?

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Most widely known as Lonzo's human, mediator, speaker, and author Sherry Ann Bruckner works with leaders and organizations to create peace, resolve conflict, and transform visions into results.

From her twenty-plus years' experience practicing civil and family law, and her own personal experiences with silence and violence, Sherry Ann understands how much inner peace impacts outer peace. A graduate of Hamline University's College of Liberal Arts and William Mitchell College of Law, she also studied conflict resolution at Rothberg International School in Jerusalem. Sherry serves as a neutral on matters ranging from bias and employment discrimination to marriage dissolution and caring for aging parents. A speaker and trainer on the global stage, Sherry gives you and your audience practical skills and the confidence to use embrace your personal power to create peace. Through helping thousands of people navigate their way through conflict, and finding her own way to inner peace, she shares the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

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Sherry Ann Bruckner

Be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.