How Long Will You Carry That?

I once attended a funeral where the priest read an obituary that did not acknowledge two of the deceased mother’s children. The young lawyer in me wanted to  “object” while he spoke. I said nothing. I could not fully understand the dynamics of the situation. 

I wonder from time to time about the unspoken words between the mother and her children. I wonder when they stopped acknowledging each other. Was it in an instant moment or a slow distancing? They surely shared significant moments, presumably the children’s firsts of many things, and celebrations of birthdays and holidays. Were joyful times erased by hurtful words or unspoken cares, or would each say no joy existed? Perhaps, each carried hurts and blamed the other for those.  

Humans sometimes choose to carry stuff with them for many years. Carrying negative thoughts and feelings around tends to disconnect us from each other and ourselves. As we observe our own actions, we begin to see our role in situations. Although we cannot change circumstances, we start to recognize our ability to act and speak with both compassion and confidence and show up as a better version of ourselves next time.  

Is there an unspoken conversation on your mind? How long do you plan to carry it? Could you benefit from conflict resolution?

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner, JD, enjoys helping you bridge the gap from where you are to where you wish to be. An attorney, mediator, coach, speaker, and trainer, she strongly believes in the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

Sherry Ann invites and encourages you to consider your own level of peace. Inner peace creates outer peace and personal peace leads to world peace. You may find her enjoying a game or hiking a state park. Sherry Ann lives near Alexandria, Minnesota. Visit to learn more or give her a call at (320) 808-3212.
Sherry Ann Bruckner

Be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.