Knowing Your Needs

What do you need? When most people state their needs, they really list strategies for meeting them. Whether physical well-being, connection, meaning, or play, we may all be able to list hundreds of ways to fulfill these needs. Yet, it is easy to become attached to our way.

Today, I will talk about physical well-being because it is universally understood as basic for human survival. This includes physical safety, shelter, and food. Looking around, you may see the myriad of ways that people fulfill these needs. By virtue of where you live in the world, you may have access to different means for doing so. Of course, various beliefs and economic factors play a role in how you do so as well.

Is there really more than one way to meet the need for physical well-being? Do we all have to agree on one method and stick to it? What if how I meet my needs differs from how you meet your needs and neither of us wants to change? This may lead to conflict, particularly when someone insists that everyone must do it their way. However, it is important to also remember that sometimes people may respectfully co-exist and meet their needs in different ways. For example, two people may live in the same home and eat completely different meals. 

An important part of conflict resolution involves being clear about needs, and openness and willingness to consider various ways exist to meet them. 

Mediation supports these important conversations by providing a safe space where you may speak your truth, be heard, and create ideas for resolution. 

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Most widely known as Lonzo's human, mediator, speaker, and author Sherry Ann Bruckner works with leaders and organizations to create peace, resolve conflict, and transform visions into results.

From her twenty-plus years' experience practicing civil and family law, and her own personal experiences with silence and violence, Sherry Ann understands how much inner peace impacts outer peace. A graduate of Hamline University's College of Liberal Arts and William Mitchell College of Law, she also studied conflict resolution at Rothberg International School in Jerusalem. Sherry serves as a neutral on matters ranging from bias and employment discrimination to marriage dissolution and caring for aging parents. A speaker and trainer on the global stage, Sherry gives you and your audience practical skills and the confidence to use embrace your personal power to create peace. Through helping thousands of people navigate their way through conflict, and finding her own way to inner peace, she shares the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

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Sherry Ann Bruckner

Be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.