Freedom of Thought

What does it mean to exercise freedom of thought?  Am I really free to think as I choose?

In each moment, situation, or circumstance face, I choose what to think.  It may be based upon past experiences, old beliefs, or it may center on the truth of the moment.

People usually enter mediation with thoughts about the other person and what each thing the person says and does means. All too often, the thoughts stem from fear and hurt, rather than accuracy and truth.

One of my favorite thought leaders, Byron Katie, offers a way to examine thoughts with four questions and a turnaround. 

The four questions are: 

  1. Is it true? 
  1. Can you absolutely know that it’s true? 
  1. How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought? 
  1. Who would you be without the thought? 

The turnaround thought is basically the opposite of the original thought. If I think “My partner should just do the dishes,” I ask the four questions and then state a turnaround. The turnaround usually means stating the opposite, such as “My partner should not do the dishes.”  Then, look for instances it might be true that he should not do the dishes. Certainly, occasions exist where that might be true.  

The point of Katie’s model, and all thought work, focuses on the personal power to create our own thoughts (and thereby feelings). In any given moment, I choose my thoughts and you choose your thoughts.

Are you choosing your thoughts consciously?  What else might be true? Consider examining your thoughts and choosing again.

What meaning to give to the world around you?  To watch my most recent video on this topic click here. 

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Most widely known as Lonzo's human, mediator, speaker, and author Sherry Ann Bruckner works with leaders and organizations to create peace, resolve conflict, and transform visions into results.

From her twenty-plus years' experience practicing civil and family law, and her own personal experiences with silence and violence, Sherry Ann understands how much inner peace impacts outer peace. A graduate of Hamline University's College of Liberal Arts and William Mitchell College of Law, she also studied conflict resolution at Rothberg International School in Jerusalem. Sherry serves as a neutral on matters ranging from bias and employment discrimination to marriage dissolution and caring for aging parents. A speaker and trainer on the global stage, Sherry gives you and your audience practical skills and the confidence to use embrace your personal power to create peace. Through helping thousands of people navigate their way through conflict, and finding her own way to inner peace, she shares the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

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Sherry Ann Bruckner

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