What does it mean to be thankful? How do you show appreciation for people in your life?
Whether an organizational conflict or a family disagreement, it is not uncommon for people to say they do not feel appreciated during mediation. People tell me they feel “taken for granted.” Sometimes nobody notices the act of showing up, doing the work, helping others complete tasks, and managing daily schedules at home or work. I get it, sometimes there seems to be so much going on in our life that it seems too much to notice someone else.
Yet, life experience teaches that on any random day someone may choose not, or may not be able, to show up in ways they always have. Any given moment may be your last experience with a person. Even if you get a million more times, what does it mean to be the person who notices people and gives thanks?
Thanksgiving is not a one and done, or just an annual celebration. Giving thanks may happen anytime or any place, which means you may show appreciation every day in every space.
Consider this a challenge to thank three people each day for the rest of the year.
Whether in the grocery store, at a ball game, at home, in your organization, or out in the community, look for something to appreciate in each person you meet. When people feel seen and appreciated, they may also be open to other constructive suggestions during conflict resolution.
Imagine you feel when you hear, “Thank you,” or “I noticed you____ and I really appreciate you?” It may be just what someone needs to hear from you.
Notice how your own perception changes. and see the eyes and moods light up around you as you notice three people each day and show up with an attitude of gratitude.