Does Time Matter?

Know anyone who tends to be late? Do you start thinking, “how rude and disrespectful,” wonder “what’s going on,” or make alternative arrangements? What do you say or do when the person arrives?  

One of my dearest friends tends to be late for gatherings (and yes, even via zoom). I love my friend, and know this about her. I used to feel frustrated. Now, I simply anticipate it. I do not schedule a one-hour lunch meeting because it might mean having about thirty minutes together, and my underlying need is for time to connect. I arrange for a more flexible time together, have a book with me, and ask her to call or message me when she’s fifteen minutes away from the meeting place. This means we now arrive closer to the same time and I have something to do if I need to wait. I no longer feel frustrated. I feel very happy to see my friend.  

What if it’s not a friend, but a co-worker, co-parent, or teammate? What if the timing really matters? How do you handle it then? You choose. Could you create a clear plan about what happens if the person arrives late, and articulate it?  What if you clearly state that plan with both compassion and confidence? Depending on the relationship, you may brainstorm ideas on how to meet everyone’s needs. Paying attention to underlying needs makes a difference, and helps keep focus on what really matters. 

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Most widely known as Lonzo's human, mediator, speaker, and author Sherry Ann Bruckner works with leaders and organizations to create peace, resolve conflict, and transform visions into results.

From her twenty-plus years' experience practicing civil and family law, and her own personal experiences with silence and violence, Sherry Ann understands how much inner peace impacts outer peace. A graduate of Hamline University's College of Liberal Arts and William Mitchell College of Law, she also studied conflict resolution at Rothberg International School in Jerusalem. Sherry serves as a neutral on matters ranging from bias and employment discrimination to marriage dissolution and caring for aging parents. A speaker and trainer on the global stage, Sherry gives you and your audience practical skills and the confidence to use embrace your personal power to create peace. Through helping thousands of people navigate their way through conflict, and finding her own way to inner peace, she shares the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

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Sherry Ann Bruckner

Be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.