Conflict Coaching Helps Make the Ask

What stops us from asking for help?  For me, it may be a combination of pride, stubbornness, and foolishness. When I ask for help, it means letting folks know that I am not superwoman and am not perfectly capable of all tasks all by myself. On the other hand, asking for help  allows more time and energy for rest and joy and reduces intrapersonal and interpersonal conflict. 

Why does one household have children who prepare family meals and engage in household cleaning, and another household have most every chore performed by the same one adult?  In one household, there is an ask. It is clear with the ask that the request helps the adult and the household meet a need.

It sometimes may seem easier to just do things ourselves. Doing so teaches the people around us that we do not want or need help, and it deprives people of the opportunity to give help and be a full part of the team or household. When colleagues, friends, family members, or neighbors offer help and it is refused, they may also believe you do not want it or need it, and may refrain from asking again. You may not want it or need it. However, if you do and accept, you are letting someone else be a part of the solution. Relationships are built in sharing tasks. Resentment often builds in going it alone. 

Conflict coaching gives you the tools to comfortably make the ask and converse more constructively with clarity, confidence, and compassion. 

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Sherry Ann Bruckner

Most widely known as Lonzo's human, mediator, speaker, and author Sherry Ann Bruckner works with leaders and organizations to create peace, resolve conflict, and transform visions into results.

From her twenty-plus years' experience practicing civil and family law, and her own personal experiences with silence and violence, Sherry Ann understands how much inner peace impacts outer peace. A graduate of Hamline University's College of Liberal Arts and William Mitchell College of Law, she also studied conflict resolution at Rothberg International School in Jerusalem. Sherry serves as a neutral on matters ranging from bias and employment discrimination to marriage dissolution and caring for aging parents. A speaker and trainer on the global stage, Sherry gives you and your audience practical skills and the confidence to use embrace your personal power to create peace. Through helping thousands of people navigate their way through conflict, and finding her own way to inner peace, she shares the transformational power of clarity, compassion, curiosity, and cribbage.

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Sherry Ann Bruckner

Be gentle with you. Be gentle with all. Be the peace.